Hey, what do you focused on? What are you working on? What you swinging for? What are you doing? Listen, today I'm excited because I really want to talk to you about what I call the five maxims for making riel progress.
Now, I know you're probably out there and you're working hard on whatever you're trying to work on. May be getting yourself in better shape. Maybe it's the the next business project or the next level making money or whatever it might be. But the bottom line is that how do you know? How do you know if this is working? How do you know if this is worth it? You're putting a lot of effort in. So let's talk about these five maxims. And I chose these because there the really quite to the point at being able to help you determine how you to make the best progress you possibly can.
One first thing you need to know is that the human person is very interesting in that, and you and I, by the way, are both both humans.... in that it's actually progress that drives a lot of our fulfillment and a lot of our happiness in life. When you feel like you're gaining some mastery over something or you're moving towards something that has value to you, it does something inside of us where we just feel like yeah, OK, things were going good. Things are going right. I'm getting there.
So let's talk about how to get there. Alright, The first phrase I want to teach you when I want to share with you real quickly was actually a game changer for me when, um, but I just didn't feel like I was getting where I wanted to go, at least not fast enough. And the phrases progress over perfection. I know there's that word right, that perfection word, it seems to haunt all of us. We always want everything that we do to be amazing and grandiose and superb and excellent and top of the line and on and on and on. And of course, we want that because it's important because we want that's how we measure success. That's how we help determine significance in our life. And so perfection sometimes gets a little bit in the away. But here's the main thing I want to talk to you about this particular phrase, progress over perfection. The first thing is that this phrases about focus you don't need me to tell you that when you're focused on something, you generally move in the direction of that thing you're focused on. And when you're not focused on something, you're generally not moving in the direction. Let me give an example. When I was a kid and my dad taught me how to ride a bike for the first time, one of the things that I was doing was that I would get on the bike and then I start pedaling and because I was new to it, I would actually start looking at my feet. And then all of a sudden I topple over. I just couldn't hold it. Okay, Next thing you know, I get back on the bike and then I start pedaling and I'll be like, there's that mailbox, right? And I start standing staring at the mailbox and guess what I did. I hit the mailbox, right? And so I was never reaching any sort of progress, much less perfection, because of what I was focused on. So focus is one of the main things about progress of perfection.
The other thing about progress over perfection is that this helps you to begin with the end in mind. Stephen Covey, one of the guys that helped us out quite a bit in all of history, says that we need to begin with the end in mind. And when we do that, we know what we're after. And when we know what we're after, then.... Then can we be making progress? Because we have nothing to measure against if we don't. If I'm here and I want to get here, unless I know where here is, I don't know where I'm going. If you want to get from where you are to California, or you want to get somewhere else, if you are where you are and you want to get there, you could get on the road and you can start traveling. You start driving, you start moving. You could take lefts and rights and you take freeways and byways and side roads. But if you don't know where you're going, if you haven't decided, you're going to California, then you're not gonna get there.
Third thing about progress over perfection is that this is about priority of the important over the tyranny of the urgent. Too often the menial things, the minute things, the things that are low dollar activities, the things that aren't important fill up our day and our time because they're easy. They're the low hanging fruit, and we feel like we're getting a win out of it. But we never feel like we're making progress. Isn't that interesting? It's kind of like eating candy at a gourmet meal. Okay, I'm getting full, but I'm not feeling fulfilled. This makes sense.
Phrase number two that I'm gonna teach you five of the five maxims for making progress is perfect is nice, done is better. I know, there is that word perfection again, right? I'm purposely driving home this thing around perfection for these first two maxims because perfectionism is the number one reason that we procrastinate. It's the number one reason why we don't make progress and we get stuck in life and in business. And so perfect is nice. Done is better.
So, first thing this is about is action instead of thinking. Okay, now the only way for us to gain momentum, which is the same thing is progress, is to be able to take actions. Actions beget results, not thinking. And the more thinking that we're doing because we're thinking about how to make it perfect, we're actually not doing and therefore not making progress. Enough said.
Okay, The next thing is, you can't make things perfect for others. You simply don't have the power. If you're trying to make your product perfect for the consumer, if you're trying to make your service perfect for the right person to buy, if you're trying to make yourself perfect for another human being, your spouse or significant other...f you're trying to make your house perfect so that the neighbors look upon you correctly, you are never gonna be able to get there because you have no idea what their idea of perfection is. And maybe they don't either. So now you're both not knowing what's going on, and you're spending a lot of effort to try to do something that's just not possible. So let yourself off the hook. Give it up.
Third thing about perfect is nice, done is better; is that this is about self kindness, right? If you're not gonna be kind to yourself, nobody else is. And when it comes to always constantly aiming perfection, you're going to continue to beat yourself up because you're not getting there. Yeah, that's not kind. That is not kind. And so I just want to give you permission right now to just treat yourself like royalty. Be the king or queen that you are. Treat yourself like it and remember that Perfect is nice, but done is better.
Alright, Maximum number three is It's not fake it till you make it, it's believe it until you become it. I need to say that one again. It's not Fake it till you make it. It's believe it until you become it. You see, the reason that progress doesn't happen for you, or for anybody else, is because we don't believe it's possible. We don't believe that we can get there. Okay, so here's what I want you to know about this.... Number one, your heart and your mind, The two superpowers around your human nature, will always know that you're faking it. And when they know that you're faking it, they're always inside going this is BS. This isn't true. This isn't right. This isn't possible. Okay, If your heart and your mind know that you're faking it, your heart and your mind are never believing it. And it isn't until you gain belief that you'll actually take action. Which brings me to the next point I want to tell you about.
The fact that belief drives all behavior. What you believe you're capable of, what you believe is possible. What you believe you can or cannot do. What you believe others are gonna allow you to do or not do... that drives what behavior you choose to do or which behaviors you completely avoid. Oh, in the second half of that, all behavior drives all progress. Okay, so let me give the whole thing here. Belief drives behavior and behavior drives progress. So what do you need to believe, so that your behaviors will become what they need to be, so you can make the progress you wanna make? This is simple, but not easy, but absolutely worth it. And don't forget that you're worth it. And so are the people who are counting on you.
Alright. Maximum number four. Inspect what you expect. Uh, I know already inside of us...there's that accountability topic, that accountability thing. And so I wanna talk about this for a minute because I want you to be able to see how this can empower you and not frustrate you because I want you to win, right? You want you to win. I want you to win. So let's do it.
All right. Number one... tracking and measuring of some sort is the only way that you're gonna know if you're making progress or if you're not. It's the only way. It's not a feeling most of the time. It's not a feeling of like, Oh, I feel like I'm making progress. You know, the truth of the matter is there are some days where I will actually be working on something and then I'll get into Facebook for the purpose of making some sort of post or ad or something like that. Next thing I know, I'm reading somebody else's post, which leads me to this thing which I clicked on this other thing. And then there's this flashy shining thing, and so on and so forth and what would have been happening is I have all the movement in the world, but not necessarily progress. Mistaking movement for achievement.
All right, so we gotta start tracking this. How do you track? Well, the bottom line is the tracking has to do with two main things. We call them lead measures and lag measures, and this is what's really exciting. When you look at a lag measures, it's what happens after the action and the behavior has already taking place. This is where it's too late to do anything about it. This is where you are crossing your fingers, hoping that something did happen, but only finding out that if it didn't, you can't do anything about it because it's already in the past. Oh, now lag measures are important because they are the things that are telling you whether it's working or not, whether your kung fu is working or not. When you're swinging for the fences, are you hitting enough? Does your batting average going up? That's the only way to be able to know this.
All right, The second piece here is the lead measures piece. So if the lag measures are measuring what has already happened or taken place and if there's any progress. Lead measures are the specific actions or behaviors that you will take that have the highest impact on making progress. Lead measures is different than mistaking movement for achievement. It's not about movement. It's about lead measures, the things that actually move the needle for making progress.
So what's the answer? Number one, you need to know what your lead measures are. You need to know the things that the highest producing activities that gets you closer to the weight loss you want, to get you closer to the income that you want, get you closer to growing your business the way you want, to get you closer to the type of marriage relationship that you want to. You got to know what those lead measures are. One of the key things, by the way, there isn't gonna be many lead measures. And when you do those things, then you could measure the lag measures and see what's going on.
Third thing about inspecting what you expect is that this is where you get to hold yourself able. That's right, I said able, not accountable. Now I'm not saying accountability is wrong because it is ultra important. But your mindset about accountability is going to matter You may look at accountability and go "You're not the boss of me", right? I don't have to do what you say, but in fact it's you that's setting the goal. And you're the one that's holding yourself to those expectations. Then the only thing they should be expecting from you what you've agreed to do.
All right, that being said, if you look at accountability as power, it becomes a wholly different thing. If you're holding yourself able, then all you're doing by tracking is proving that you're able. This is not about shaming or guilting or beating yourself up for what you didn't do. It's about being aware and clear of what you did and didn't do and what progress you've got or didn't get so that you know what to do next. If you invoke the phrase that says 'the next time I intend to', instead of 'dang it why didn't I?'; You're gonna feel a whole lot different and you're gonna be engaged to make the actions happen. Action over thinking.
Maxim number five.... If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten. That one has been a huge one for me in my life. And this came to me about five years ago or so and hit me square between the eyes.. So, let's talk about the main points of this one.
Number one, the blessing and the curse of habit. This is where this habit becomes invoked here. What do I mean by both blessing and curse? How could that even be possible? Number one, habit is a blessing, By the way, habit is a form of behavior, right? Behavioral habit. When you have particular behaviors that become habit, they become rote. They become part of who you are and they're fruitful for you. They help you feel better. They help you act better. They help you do better. They help you get better. Okay, That becomes a blessing. It becomes life giving to you. It's so awesome. Right?
But if you take on habits that are not fruitful, they don't get you where you want to go, that don't move you, they don't help you. As a matter of fact, they may actually help you get worse or less, or unhealthier. Those kind of habits can be a curse. And so what I want you to know is that you're endowed with a massive amount of power inside of you, and that power is called habit. You see, if you measure a person's habits in their life, you can tell what their life is gonna be like. Tell me what your habits are, I'll tell you what your life looks like. Tell yourself what your habits are, and you could be able to take a look and see what your life is like. And so, what do you do about your habits?
Okay, point number two. I'm talking about when it comes to 'If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you always gotten' is to invoke adventure. Okay, Invoke adventure. What I'm saying to you is, I want you to create such a clear and compelling future that you can't not do it. It's an absolute yes, I'm moving in that direction! That's what's gonna be critically important. I'm reading a book right now that reminded me of something that Warren Buffett said and goes like this.... The idea is that the difference between successful people and supremely successful people is that supremely successful people say no to almost everything. You can only say no if you have a stronger yes, So what is it that's adventurous... That's exciting? That's so interesting that you can keep your eye on the prize. Adventure is exciting! It's going out and trying something new for the sake of excitement.
Now, you need to know this excitement and nervousness (anxiety) reside in the same place in the body, exact same place in the body. So you have to decide for yourself. Are you going to label it excitement and adventure? Are you gonna label it being bossed around and having to be accountable? You get to decide. That's how powerful you are.
Going back to the keeping your eyes on the price. Now that you've determined that you're gonna be adventurous, what's the adventure look like? How often are you looking at that? And when I say looking at it, I mean, make a vision board. Okay? Create a mental picture that's so clear and so compelling that you can close your eyes... you can be there. Did you know that you can actually go back to a time in the past when you felt absolutely adventurous and amazing and excited and compelled and you'll experience that again because your brain does not know the difference between a vividly imagined experience and a real one? This is why vision works. Visualizations work is basically creating a picture so compelling that we feel like we're already there and it wants to draw us in.
All right. Wanna make some progress? Do it. Now you've got some cool ideas, right? The five maxims are progress over perfection. Perfect is nice, done is better. It's not fake it till you make it, it's believe it till you become it. Inspect what you expect, and then... if you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.
Here's what I'm gonna say to wrap up this conversation with you, and I trust that you'll take it as it's meant.
Get it! It's what you are supposed to do.